Friday, October 20, 2017

GRIT...Innate or Learned?

The definition of grit is as follows...
Alone each of these words speak volumes...together they paint a picture for me of a person who shows mental grit...those people who no matter what will finish a task even if injury comes.  My husband and I were watching a series last year about a group of people that they put through training to be part of special forces.  The things they had to endure both mentally and physically challenged each person until there were only 5 men remaining.  The last challenge was a trek that they had to complete through a mountain range.  Along the way there were tasks that they had to complete and check points.  It was hot...they were exhausted...and they had no idea how long they had to complete the challenge, where the end was, or that if they reached the end they had won.  What we saw in those men was true mental grit....they wanted to quit so badly but there was nothing that was going to keep them from continuing on.  It was so engaging that when they reached the end and you saw the elation on their face, I cried! 

This got me thinking...is that just something that is in them or did they learn it from somewhere?  I look at my two girls (the baby hasn't had to show his grit yet!) and they are two opposite ends of the spectrum.  One really pulls away from a challenge especially a physical one and tends to stop before she can really show herself that she is capable.  The other speeds through a challenge no matter what is in front of her.  Will they always be this way?  Can my daughter learn how to challenge herself and feel the elation at the finish?
I then looked at myself as a runner...and throughout my life.  My husband joked with me the other day when we were debating whether or not our oldest should go to soccer practice with a cold.  I thought running around in the cold air would be good for her, and he pointed out that I'm the same person who will run those last three miles of a race with open blisters because a finish line is a finish line!  Mental grit was what made me a successful softball player (I mean being a catcher is all about the grit).  Mental grit was what made me a strong soccer player (I used to do group runs and just about hold my breathe because I didn't want my teammates to know I was winded).  Mental grit has carried me over thousands of finish lines through the years including a Boston Marathon finish in 30 degree weather after enduring a Nor'Easter.   When I look at myself through my years, I would say I was always more like my middle child....always ready to take down a challenge.

My hope is that I can show my oldest that she too has that grit...she can challenge her body to do amazing things...she can push her limits and show herself what she can really do.  And as I climb back to my first race back after this third baby, my hope it that my mental grit will just come oozing out and she'll want in!  We can all have that grit....it's just digging deep enough for it to come out!

Monday, October 9, 2017

Monday Motivation

I'm going to drop a few truth bombs....this post baby recovery has SUCKED (I'm sorry Mom I know you hate that word)...my weight hasn't changed since I got home from the hospital 4 months ago...I've wanted to quit a thousand times over...I have been embarrassed to even post here thinking I am such a poser!  All of this is true and then some.  At 2 years shy of 40 I have had my third child and my body is fighting me every step of this postpartum journey.  I am making a promise to myself and a post to all of you that I will NOT quit...I will not settle...as my daughter says I'm still deflating (she follows it up with "no offense Mom"...yeah we are in that phase) and I WILL reach my goal!  There will come a time where I will be able to run again effortlessly!  There will come a time where my clothes fit again!  There will come a time where I catch my reflection in a mirror and not cringe!!!  I will get there!!!

What goal are you shooting for these days?  Any postpartum mamas out there?

Monday, September 18, 2017

Monday Motivation

I have been sitting pretty in this postpartum nest...nice and cozy with very low expectations.  I have been doing kettlebells and walking/running a bit but with no goal other than to lose this dang baby weight.  This weekend...with a visit from my BRF Jill...I am putting my money where my mouth is and I'm registering for my first race post baby #3!  My favorite...Newport 10 Miler! It is my goal race and while it is not until June I know that I need to start pushing more.  Time to kick this bird out of the nest!  I am so nervous that I am just going to be awful...like I'll never be able to run double digits again...but then again what if I am better than before!  So that is my goal....better my best!!!  Taking risks is scary...but what if we fly?!!!

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Back to School...Training...and Me

This week marks the first full week back to school for the chickies and I.  On this part of the Cape with all the tourism and such, we start school after Labor Day.  I like it because it's a good way to transition from summer to fall...and back to reality!

I love me my Summer hard, but the Fall and back-to-school time provides a good transition for me to start focusing in on some goals for myself.  It's like New Years for teachers!!  This summer for me in regards to training and all that fun was all about healing and getting my body in a place where I can start to push it again.  I've said it before, my mind is ready WAY before my body is so I didn't want to push too much too soon.  However, mentally I was going NUTS!!!  Mama needs to sweat and feel like herself again!  My mind was saying "Let's Go!!!" but this post 3rd C-section body was saying, "Slow your roll girl!" 
Now that I am 3 months down, I have started to make some semblance of a schedule and a plan for working out and running....in all honesty the running has been the hardest to fit in.  I think that this is happening because I am so much slower than before pregnancy so it takes me a lot longer to cover distances!  Also we are starting school an hour earlier so I have a lot less time in the morning than last year.  I'm determined though to fit it in and increase my speed so that I can get to where I was...and even better!! 
Right now here is what my schedule is looking like:
Monday: morning kettlebells and afternoon run
Tuesday: Family fitness....we have been going on walks and runs(since mini chickie rides her bike and we basically need to chase her!)
Wednesday: morning kettlebells and afternoon run
Thursday: morning run (Starting to make friends again with my basement treadmill)
Friday: morning kettlebells and afternoon run
Weekends....TBD
We haven't figured out how we are going to divide and conquer Saturdays with the girls soccer and both of us going to the gym yet.
Last week was sort of a "soft opening" to the school year and it went well.  I definitely need to get myself into the shower earlier because I was flying out the door.  More than anything though was the feeling I had at the gym....I felt like myself again!!!  I was so nervous to go back to the gym.  I wasn't nervous about the exercising....I was nervous about how I looked.  I know, I know but seriously!  Bellies are cute when you're pregnant...not 3 months later!  I know it isn't going to come off instantly but I will say that I am very self conscious....and avoid the giant mirrors at the gym!  I was glad I pushed myself to go though...it felt great to sweat!!!
Not quite the schedule I had before...but I didn't have 3 kids before!!!  I know it will take some moving and tweaking in order for both my husband and I to get our workouts in...but like I said...I'm willing to keep trying until it works!! 

Monday, September 11, 2017

Monday Motivation...Coming Out of the Dark

Hello?  Anyone out there?  I feel like it has been a lifetime since the last time I posted.  I'm not sure if it is the whole back-to-school time or the fact that the little man is about 3 1/2 months old now, but I am starting to feel like I'm coming out of that new mom tunnel!  This past week I started back at the gym and I'm still trying to find time to get in some miles, but I am honestly feeling more and more like myself again!  Now to just get my outsides to match my insides!!  It doesn't matter if you are a mom or just plain busy, getting out and exercising whatever it may be is so necessary!!!  It is so easy to just continually push yourself to the side in order to meet everyone's needs...but you need to fill your own tank first!  I feel like the more I am moving and fueling right, the better mom/wife I can be!  Make that choice this week...do it for you!

Monday, August 14, 2017

Monday Motivation

I have been doing a lot of comparing lately....to other new moms...to the me from last year...to other runners...and it has stolen joy each time.  I've never been one to "bounce right back" and this pregnancy is no different.  However I know I WILL get there!  I need to make the choice every day to try my best and one day I WILL be there!  Everyone's journey looks different...and so does mine!  It will be a challenge this week but I am putting my foot down on the caparison game...will you?

Monday, July 17, 2017

Monday Motivation

Last week I was cleared to start exercising.  If I've learned anything from my last two pregnancies it's that I can't start back at the intensity that I was at before pregnancy.  Some people can but my body has made it clear that after 3 C-Sections I need to take my time and be patient...something I have a hard time with.  So I have a plan.  Before I start pile on all the miles, my plan is to keep my mileage low and work more on building muscle first....like building a house.  You need to have a strong foundation first...this is evidenced by the fact that I hurt my back yesterday in church literally just coughing!!  I am so ready....ready to feel like myself again...ready to have my clothes fit again...ready to not feel like me walking around in a fat suit!  I'm ready and I have my plan!!  What goals are you working toward this week?  Make a plan and go get them!!!