Words for Wednesday...Doing What Your Momma Taught You

"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!"

I have been writing this post in my mind for the past week or so trying to find just the right words so that I don't sound like I'm whining or being bitter in any way.  My thoughts started to form after reading a post by one of the sweetest ladies I read (I don't know her in real life).  She is in her second pregnancy and is bigger than she was with her first (even though she is a peanut still!) and she was reflecting on how people's comments have made her feel this time around.  For some reason or another, people's internal filter gets turned off the moment they see a baby bump.  Comments they would never make to an overweight person just flow freely from their mouth like....

"Wow you're really big"

"Were you this big with your last?"

"You sure you want that salt given how much you could swell even more?"

"Are you sure there is just one?"

"My______ is pregnant too but she's much smaller than you!"

"How much weight have you gained so far?"

I'm sure there are a flurry of comments people have made to women that are really tiny their whole pregnancy as well....just never had that problem! I mean it's not like I can suck it in...it shouldn't be open season on the comments.  You have to read this article I posted on Facebook with 20 things never to say to a pregnant lady....hilarious!

I had never given much thought during my first pregnancy about these comments except the passing, "Ummm ok thanks?"  I loved my belly and stuck it out proud.  Then I had to lose the weight.....yeah not so easy!  During this pregnancy I was confused at first as to why it was such a goal for me NOT to look pregnant even now that I am almost 20 weeks.  I feel HUGE even though when I put on my old maternity clothes I am swimming in them.  I think part of it has to do with being given those messages in my previous pregnancy....I was huge (even though my very kind family tells me I wasn't) and I suppose I was trying to avoid those same things.  Who knows.  

I know today my baby and I are both healthy....I'm running still (and hopefully pain free thanks to the advice of several of my Fitfluential running mommas)....and while my belly is growing (exponentially it seems by the day) I am working it (most of the time!).  This is a short time in my life and I am going to try my best to celebrate each moment...each expansion of the waistline...each kick...each milestone!  And while I'm at it I'm going to tell a fellow pregnant lady that she looks fabulous!!!